Vu Quy Ceremony and Its True Meaning that Few People Know
Have you ever wondered what is the meaning of the “Vu Quy” (which means leaving for her husband’s house) ceremony, and why is there other ceremonies such as “Tan Hon” (just married) and the “Thanh Hon” (the wedding)? What does each ceremony mean? Here in this article Vdes will share some information on this to you!
What is the “Vu Quy” ceremony?
Vy Quy is the traditional ceremony of the Vietnamese, that is intended to celebrate the bride coming to the husband’s home. There will be a sign that hangs outside the gate of the bride’s house. Usually, the groom’ family will pick a good time to come to the bride’s house to receive her. During the ceremony, the couple will perform traditional rituals: introducing each other to both families; burning incense for the ancestors; bowing to both parents. These rituals are intended to show respect and love to the parents and praying for the consideration and protection from the ancestors.
In some places, the Vu Quy ceremony are also applied to the husband, i.e. the Cham ethnic group. According to their tradition, Cham girls will “catch” their husband. This tradition is considered one of the most interesting rituals for marriage of all ethnic groups in Vietnam.
How is the Vu Quy ceremony different from the other ceremonies?
As mentioned above, the Vu Quy ceremony is for the bride, while the Tan Hon and Thanh Hon ceremony are for different purposes and subject.
The Thanh Hon ceremony – the Wedding – is the party for both families and friends, usually a celebration for people “outside the family” to join the happiness of the newly-wedded. Therefore, it is the only ceremony whose information is included in the invitation card. Nowadays, the phrase “thanh hon” is widely used mostly in the North, when the groom’s family perform the receiving ceremony.
Tan Hon is a ritual performed at the groom’s house, which is intended to welcome the bride to the new home. The word is widely used in the South, and is included in the wedding background and sign in the gate. In the Tan Hon ceremony, the couples also perform necessary rituals to show respect and love to the ancestors and the parents.
How is the Vu Quy ceremony performed?
Although the ceremony is done slightly differently in each region, but normally it follows this order:
1. The Groom’s family will bring the trays and offerings to the bride’s family to show the will to receive her.
2. The bridesmaid and groomsmen will present the offerings in the front gate or front yard.
3. Bridesmaid will bring the offerings to the home altar, in their respective previous order
4. The best man from the groom’s side will make the opening speech, and will mention about the meaning of the offerings. Then he will officially offer them to the bride’s family.
5. The Brides will be taken by her mother to be presented to the groom’s family. The groom will bring her flowers, and they will perform the bowing rituals to show respect to the ancestors. (known as the “Gia Tien” rites)
6. After that, the couple will bow to their parents to show their gratitude for their raising and teaching and supporting of their love.
7. After the rites, the bride’s family will invite the groom’s family to drink tea, eat some betel and areca. The elderlies will sit and talk to know each other. Then everyone will say blessings to the couples and have a feast.
8. A good hour will be picked for the groom’s family to receive the bride and bring her to groom’s house to perform rituals there.
9. The bride’s family will perform the “Lai Qua” rituals, which means they will offer a portion of the offerings from the trays back to the groom’s family as gifts.
10.The groom’s family depart and the Vu Quy ceremony at the bride’s house finishes.
Readers now have understood some most important points about the Vu Quy ceremony and how it is performed. We hope that the information is useful and help you understand better the tradition of Vietnamese weddings!